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Too many people today focus on what is wrong in their relationship rather than the positive aspects of their relationship. Many people have a habit of seeing the negative and they pick out everything that their spouse does wrong while others avoid negative thinking which allows them to focus on the the things that they like about their partner. Unfortunately, one of the reasons that there are so many problems in today’s marriages is because our society has become focused on the negative instead of looking at the positive. These negative attitudes have a direct correlation as to why there is such a high divorce rate today but this can change with positive reinforcement.

Often times negative thinking stems from how you see your partner rather than your partner being the sole problem. Take an inventory of yourself to see if you possess critical thinking. Are you always focusing on what your partner did wrong? Are you constantly nagging him or her to do what you want, the way that you want it?

You can choose what thoughts that you want to put into your mind. A negative attitude will produce a negative effect. Your thought process is a very powerful thing and if you can learn to reverse your negative thinking and start to think positively, you’ll begin to see an improvement in your relationship or marriage.

Recognition is a key factor in eliminating your negative attitude. Recognize your negative thoughts as they come into your mind and abolish the negative thinking right away. Deal with each critical thought one at a time by downplaying the negative and focusing on the positive. This could be learned by listening to self help audio or dvd recordings, reading books, seeking professional help or self talk.

Instead of criticizing your partner for what they did or didn’t do, try giving them a compliment for something that they did do right. Everyone responds better to praise and they are more likely to want to do a better job as a result of it. If you have a problem with your partner, go to them and discuss it but do not nag, criticize, poke, fault find or condemn them. This is non productive and it will ultimately have an adverse effect on your relationship.

Make a list of the good qualities that your spouse has and read over this list every day. Even if it seems a little silly, this is your start in training your mind to think positively. It allows you to recognize the reasons that you married or started dating your partner in the first place. It allows you to see that is is not all bad!

Remember that your spouse is not you. Although you may have a certain way of doing things, there are often times several ways of doing things and everyone is different. If you criticize your spouse too often, this critical spirit may eventually rub off on them, causing even more trouble in your relationship.

Avoid talking about your spouse behind there back to your friends as this only raises the level of your negativity. Condemnation is not an option when your partner is present or absent. You were meant to support eachother through thick and thin, not to alienate one another.

The key factor to remember is that we all have faults and to magnify these faults will only do your relationship harm. Try to resolve the issues at hand in a lighter tone and you’ll begin to see a difference in the way your partner responds to you. We only have one life to live and who wants to live it miserably?

Start thinking positive, even if you don’t believe it at first. Train your mind to find the good things about your partner and focus on them. These positive attributes just may be the saving factor that can revive your relationship and allow you to go on to have a happy & healthy life together, if you focus on them.

Giving up is the easy way out, stay and better your relationship if you truly do love the person that you’re with. In the long run, you will most likely be glad that you did and if there are children involved, you’ll be giving them a 400% better chance of living a more fulfilling life.

Lingerie Lot is not a professional lisenced counseling center & only gives this relationship advice as a tool that you may or may not choose to use. We do not make any claims based on the use of our Relationship Help articles. Please seek professional advice if you deem it to be necessary.

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When your marriage is working properly the onset of jealousy is absent. The reason for this is because you are both prioritizing your relationship and your spouse as being your number one priority.

Is there someone or something that you are allowing to take your focus away from your spouse? This could be working too much, playing sports a little too often or a friend that you enjoy spending a lot of time with. Is it creating a barrier between you and your spouse? If so, it is most likely because we all have an inert jealousy that is a built in defense mechanism designed to protect our relationships. If you take the right approach, the occurence of this happening in your relationship can be all together eliminated.

Sacrifice is key to eliminating jealousy in relationships. What are you willing to sacrifice to make this happen? Your spouse needs to get the benefit of spending the majority of their time with you. Your loved one needs to come first. They need to be first on your priority list, before your job (within reason), before your sports or hanging around with your friends. It is helpful to set aside time in each day to go over the days events, discuss issues, or just spend quality time alone together. You may also want to set aside a “date night” where you and your spouse can focus on having fun together, just the two of you. The main objective is to prioritize your relationship and let your spouse know that they indeed are number one on your list. Sacrifice is essential in order to make your spouse aware of this without a doubt.

The second way to eliminate jealousy in relationships is to put some energy into it. It’s not enough to sit around and watch TV together. Just because you’ve set time aside to spend with eachother each day doesn’t mean that it is going to be effective. You absolutely need to put some energy into it by making an effort to do something different, go somewhere new or to make whatever you are doing special in some way. Actions without meaning behind them are meaningless so remember to liven it up and be creative. Buying yourself some sexy lingerie is always a great way to spice things up and he’ll love you for it! The main focus is to put your relationship first and foremost, always. Again, your partner needs to feel that they are your number one priority.

The third way to eliminate jealousy in relationships is to program your words and your actions to reflect the way you feel towards one another. Just because your partner knows that you love them doesn’t mean that you don’t have to say it anymore. Everyone needs reassurance and affection on a continual basis. It is the wheel that drives the love mobile. Your attitude, actions and demeanor towards your relationship show that you absolutely adore one another. Bring home some flowers after work one day with a nice card stating your love. Make a special reservation at a favorite dinner spot or rent a love story movie to watch together at home while cuddling on the couch. Your actions and the effort you put into your relationship will be rewarded ten fold if you just take the time to do these special things.

If you follow these three simple steps, you will begin to see the jealousy factor all together disappear in a matter of a short period of time. Remember, prioritize your relationship to be the most important thing in your life. This also sets a great example for your children. They will take this life lesson with them into their future relationships. Set a good example for them by doing these things yourself and you’ll also be setting them up for success in their relationships as well as your own.

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Lingerie Lot is not a professional lisenced counseling center & only gives this relationship advice as a tool that you may or may not choose to use. We do not make any claims based on the use of our Relationship Help articles. Please seek professional advice if you deem it to be necessary.

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Remember when you & your spouse first started dating? Do you remember when you married eachother? Often times couples are at their happiest in the early phases of their relationship. The main reason for this is because you were both so careful not to offend one another in the beginning. You were careful to do the right things & to say the right words that made it easy for your mate to fall in love with you. You fell in love because you worked at it.

Emotions & relationships do not happen effortlessly. They take work in order to keep them running as smoothly as they did in the beginning. You need to get back to the mindset that you had when you first met. Do the special things that fuel your relationship or it will run out of gas! Take your baby doll out for a romantic dinner or bring her flowers after work. Ladies, make your man a romantic dinner at home by candlelight or buy him a gift as a token of your love.

One of the key factors to remember is that there is no “one” perfect soul mate out there for you. There is no relationship that will just flow effortlessly without special attention. All relationships have problems in varying degrees. The important thing is to remember that it can get better if you’re both willing to work on it & do the things that it takes to rekindle your relationship.

A study was done with a large group of couples that were unhappy in their relationships at the time of the survey. The same group of couples was surveyed five years later and 85% of them said that they were “now” happy in their marraige. It is entirely possible to fix your marraige no matter what the circumstances are but it may take a lot of forgiveness & hard work from both parties. If you are committed to going the extra mile to do what it takes to save your relationship, chances are that you will be glad that you did in the long run.

Remember, the #1 thing that ladies need is the feeling of security. This is essential for her happiness.

The two things that the gentlemen need are honor & respect. This is essential for his happiness.

Start by changing the way you treat eachother & you’ll begin to see a difference right away. First, you’ll need to start to like eachother again. In a couple of months, you’ll start to see the love come back again & in several years, you’ll most likely be past anything you’d ever imagined for your marraige. Anyone can give up on their marraige but we need to get back to the old family traditions of sticking it out & making it better for the sake of the entire family. You can do it!

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Lingerie Lot is not a professional lisenced counseling center & only gives this relationship advice as a tool that you may or may not choose to use. We do not make any claims based on the use of our Relationship Help articles. Please seek professional advice if you deem it to be necessary.

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A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her Mother.
As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter “Don’t forget your Sisters,” she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. “’They’ll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need Sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.”

“’Remember that ‘Sisters’ means ALL the women…  your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. You’ll need other women. Women always do.”

What a funny piece of advice, the young woman thought. Haven’t I just gotten
married?  Haven’t I just joined the couple-world? I’m now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life
worthwhile!

But she listened to her Mother. She kept contact with her Sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, Sisters are the mainstays of her life. After more than 40 years of living in this world, here is what I’ve learned:

Time passes.

Life happens.

Distance separates.

Children grow up.

Jobs come and go.

Love waxes and wanes.

Hearts break.

Parents die.

Colleagues forget favors.

Careers end.

BUT………

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your
life will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley’s end. Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you…Or come in and carry you out. Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life!

The world wouldn’t be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure
called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.

Relationships become what you put into them.
Remember those who are important to you and make time for them.

We’d all like to think that a sexually transmitted disease will never affect “us”. But the cold hard truth is 25% of sexually active people alive today in the United States have had or will have some sort of sexually transmitted disease. AIDS being one of the most severe and deadly STD’s (sexually transmitted disease) has taken the lives of many loved ones and the statistics show that it is no longer a homosexual disease.

Due to lack of values, lack of knowledge, or just plain weakness in our society today, more and more children are having sex at an alarmingly young age and more and more adults are having sex with no marital commitment. The core values of our society are deteriorating and with that also comes the unfortunate consequence of more rapid spread of infectious disease.

Statistics:

• Thirty Three Million People in the world today are infected with HIV

• One Million People in the United States are infected with HIV
• 25% of all sexually active people in the U.S. will have had or will get a Sexually Transmitted Disease
• 40,000 new cases of AIDS are reported every year in the U.S.
• 70% of new AIDS infections are reported to be in men
• 30% of new AIDS infections are reported to be in women
• Of those 30% of new cases reported in women, 64% of those cases were found in african american women
• Of those 70% of new cases reported in men, 54% of those cases were found in african american males
• Half of all NEW AIDS infections in the United States are in people the age of 25 or younger
• In Palm Beach, Florida, the rate of AIDS infections in those age 50 or older rose 71% from 1991 to 1992.
• Research shows that condoms are effective only 69% of the time
• Hepatitus A, B, and C are also a factor in the spread of HIV

We were made to love one another and enjoy eachother’s bodies. Love and love making is a divine gift that should be cherished and not taken lightly. Remember, you are the determining factor as to whether you want to subject yourself to what could be a life altering moment. Make the right decision!

We all need to be more aware and health conscious if we are to remain a strong and vibrant nation. Let’s try making an effort to raise the awareness and the severity of the problem so that our children’s children have a safe place to live and good core values to fall back on. If we all do our part, we can make a difference in the lives of those who have HIV &  AIDS as well as their families while setting a course for the future of our children.

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